With Christmas fast approaching, the excitement and rituals of the season are coming along with it whether we are ready or not. As grieving parents, it can be such a bittersweet time of year where happy memories clash with our loss. It can be fraught with triggers and wishes unfulfilled. We can do nothing to stop the Holidays from coming, but we can choose how we will handle ourselves and what we will do (or not do). Some things will be a struggle because the memories and loss are so deep.Read More
As a grieving parent, the winter Holiday Season can feel like a minefield of grief triggers that you have to navigate surrounded by people who don’t necessarily understand, even if they mean well. But how do you grieve and survive this family-oriented time of year when you are missing your child who has died?Read More
Everywhere you turn at this time of year, there are back to school tips from how to pack lunches to how to prepare for the first day of school. But, what if you don’t have to be doing any of that anymore? Maybe you’re not preparing for back to school because one child (or more) is missing. Or maybe you are simply reminded that the child you lost will never experience this milestone. How do you manage?Read More
This poem by one of our Journey Through Loss moms, Amber Robinson, captures what so many moms feel as we live our lives after loss. Amber and her family have created a charitable foundation in honour of her son, Max. If you would like to learn more...Read More
Growing up in Canada, Christmas was so important to me, but for the 2010 Holiday Season all I wanted was to sleep it away or escape it somehow. The pressure of the Holidays began to build early because in November we received news. After waiting three months for Amiya’s autopsy results, we found out that it was a virus and co-sleeping that had caused my sweet baby girl to pass away at only 9 weeks old.
As Christmas drew closer, I wanted to forget it was part of my upbringing or that I once upon a time loved this holiday. In years past, Christmas was so important to me: The rituals, the tree, the turkey, family gatherings, fun and festivities. But my grief wouldn’t allow me to want to participate in any of these events that year.Read More
Christmas comes with joyfulness, songs, decorations, and the cheeriness of the Season. But after the summer when my five year old son, Sean, died, Christmas held no joy for me. In fact, listening to Christmas music became problematic so I had to make choices to respect how I was feeling and grieving.
Those first few Christmases, I remember...Read More
Each year in Canada, we pause on November 11 to remember those who secured our freedom and those who continue to keep it secure. It’s always been a day dear to my heart... But why bring up this day in a grief blog? A trip to Ottawa for Remembrance Day services doesn’t seem to fit, but it does. I doubt I would have been there if I hadn’t been grieving.Read More